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Do You Still Address Letters to Mr., Mrs. or Ms.?

Or is that no longer politically correct? And what about plumber01/28/19
It's easy when it is only Mr, Mrs or Ms. Now you have to ch trijocker01/28/19
I'm surprised at the number of letters I get addressing me a fettywap01/28/19
Never use Mrs. unless it has been requested or you've seen t onehell01/28/19
Dear Comrade So-and-so, I am writing about the August com phosita01/28/19
In over ten years, I've had one trans client. I addressed th johnsmith01/28/19
plumber (Jan 28, 2019 - 12:54 pm)

Or is that no longer politically correct?

And what about "Dear Sir or Madam"?

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trijocker (Jan 28, 2019 - 1:12 pm)

It's easy when it is only Mr, Mrs or Ms.
Now you have to choose a pronoun on most campuses or law schools to go by.
You need to choose your preferred gender pronoun (He, Him, His); (She, Her, Hers); (They, Them, Theirs); (Ze, Hir, Hirs), (Xe, Xem, Xyrs) Etc.
Don't even ask what the last words are, but I was helping someone fill out their applications and you had to choose your own referenced pronoun.
Tips for pronouncing here:
https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/call-me-ze-not-he-university-wants-everyone-to-use-gender-inclusive-pronouns

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fettywap (Jan 28, 2019 - 1:45 pm)

I'm surprised at the number of letters I get addressing me as mrs. I don't really care. It used to make my mother mad when anybody called me mrs.

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onehell (Jan 28, 2019 - 2:51 pm)

Never use Mrs. unless it has been requested or you've seen them use it to refer to themselves.

As to the rest, my experience has been that they won't take offense if you just assume Mr. or Ms. based on how the name sounds or what they looked like when they met you. If they correct you and you ignore them, then they'll get offended. But otherwise it happens to them all the time and they'll be used to it. Although, if it's one's own client it might be prudent to add a preferred appellation line to the intake forms.

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phosita (Jan 28, 2019 - 4:55 pm)

Dear Comrade So-and-so,

I am writing about the August communication from Comrade such-and-such, in which Comrade such-and-such refers to the joint pain Comrade such-and-such was suffering in the left knee of Comrade such-and-such.

...and so on.

Utterly cumbersome and ridiculous, which is totally fitting for these Defectives who insist on identifying as the color puce or whatnot.

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johnsmith (Jan 28, 2019 - 5:38 pm)

In over ten years, I've had one trans client. I addressed the letters to whatever their name was, something like, Dear David Jones. It barely comes up, when it did it wasn't a big deal, and most of us do not live/work on a college campus. But by all means, go ahead and spend a lot of time worrying about it for some reason.

Dear Sir or Madam covers everybody and can be used without fear.

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