Is it normal to feel like a total fraud?

I feel like I just bullshit my way through life and somehow sillydood10/16/13
Okay, why don't you try sleeping on the street a few nights gribble10/19/13
Everyone bs's and over emphasizes their roles in most fieldsokocim10/17/13
Yes, especially for successful women.minkey110/17/13
Usually cause we gotta work x2 as hard to be taken seriouslylawtard10/17/13
All the time.shithead10/17/13
It's called Advertising.theclient10/17/13
Remember, life isn't measured against some arbitrary scale, superttthero10/17/13
I used to be painfully aware of how little I knew. Then I recavebro10/17/13
Our success in this life depends on convincing people that wfirsttofile10/17/13
Oh my god YES. Law=sales, its all puffery and bullshit.relater210/17/13
It's not bullshit if you believe it.kmc66610/17/13
Of course, it is BS at some level. But we learned a peculiajeffm10/17/13
I feel like a fraud every day. A lot has to do with my practt3success10/18/13
A huge part of this game is instilling in clients a sense ofbrokelawyer10/19/13
Masquerading as a man with a reason My charade is the eventsilk10/20/13



sillydood (Oct 16, 2013 - 11:40 pm)

I feel like I just bullshit my way through life and somehow convince people I'm competent when in reality I am a total shithead.

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gribble (Oct 19, 2013 - 11:40 pm)

Okay, why don't you try sleeping on the street a few nights in a row, and not eating a meal, and then get back to us on how that feels instead.

Do what you gotta do. Your client is probably BSing you and won't be willing to pay your legal fees despite "earning a six figure salary on Wall St."

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okocim (Oct 17, 2013 - 12:39 am)

Everyone bs's and over emphasizes their roles in most fields. Its pretty normal.

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minkey1 (Oct 17, 2013 - 2:23 am)

Yes, especially for successful women.

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lawtard (Oct 17, 2013 - 5:19 pm)

Usually cause we gotta work x2 as hard to be taken seriously the higher up you go in management.

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shithead (Oct 17, 2013 - 5:39 am)

All the time.

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theclient (Oct 17, 2013 - 7:44 am)

It's called Advertising.

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superttthero (Oct 17, 2013 - 7:56 am)

Remember, life isn't measured against some arbitrary scale, but against others.

You have an arbitrary meter in your head of what a good/smart person is. You don't meet your own criteria, however, when measured up against the rest of America, the fact that you have the realization that you're not that great already puts you in the top half.

I feel what you feel, but at least I tell myself this: "I know I still suck. I know how not smart I am, I know how lazy I am, I know how often I fuck up... but look at the proles of my city.. well, maybe I am at least better than them (in some respects)."

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cavebro (Oct 17, 2013 - 8:11 am)

I used to be painfully aware of how little I knew. Then I realized that others (not all, but a huge chunk of the population) were BS'ing their way through life. Now I just try to act confident about as many things I can as often as I can.

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firsttofile (Oct 17, 2013 - 8:13 am)

Our success in this life depends on convincing people that we are who we say we are.

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relater2 (Oct 17, 2013 - 10:58 am)

Oh my god YES. Law=sales, its all puffery and bullshit.

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kmc666 (Oct 17, 2013 - 11:05 am)

It's not bullshit if you believe it.

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jeffm (Oct 17, 2013 - 7:01 pm)

Of course, it is BS at some level. But we learned a peculiar doctrinal framework which interweaves across many causes of action, plus a fairly specific jargon as to how to communicate that framework.

Knowledge of it is very important and increases your effectiveness. It's not a good idea, if you intend to practice, to ignore the framework and jargon and discount it all as BS. The more you know about it, the more convincing your "BS" will be.

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t3success (Oct 18, 2013 - 12:13 pm)

I feel like a fraud every day. A lot has to do with my practice area.

I really am just a huge idiot and I can't believe anyone would respect my opinion

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brokelawyer (Oct 19, 2013 - 12:50 pm)

A huge part of this game is instilling in clients a sense of (1) confidence and (2) trustworthiness. The first is a careful game of deploying your own knowledge and maneuvering around what you don't know on the fly. Mistakes are going to be made and people are going to doubt you, but you CANNOT succumb to believing that you are incapable. That would be like a pilot deciding he had to succumb to gravity. You must keep the hands on the rudder, even during a flat spin. At the same time, you CANNOT lie. Ever. That is the all-critical component (2), and if you become untrustworthy your career is thoroughly and irrevocably over.

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silk (Oct 20, 2013 - 2:28 pm)

Masquerading as a man with a reason
My charade is the event of the season
And if I claim to be a wise man,
Well, it surely means that I don't know

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